Wednesday, 1 January 2014

2013 Reading Challenge


Jackie's bookshelf: 2013-reading-challenge

Paper Faces
3 of 5 stars
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UnEnchanted
1 of 5 stars
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Elsewhere
3 of 5 stars
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The Last of the High Kings
3 of 5 stars
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This Is How You Lose Her
4 of 5 stars
There's just something about the way Junot Diaz writes that I love. Even when he's writing about loss and sexual infidelity his "voice" is warm, humorous and strangely tender. The men in his stories are all seriously flawed in their rel...
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The Last Book in the Universe
4 of 5 stars
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The Woodcutter
4 of 5 stars
A thoroughly enjoyable retelling and combining of fairy tales from various sources.The message the same, even if the meaning is a little different: True love conquers all. In this case however, true love is not the romantic, Disneyfied ...
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The Fir Tree
4 of 5 stars
This edition is beautifully illustrated, with a pleasingly tactile hardback cover and printed on high quality paper. If you are unfamiliar with the story, it is the tale of a fir tree that wishes away it's life waiting to be fully grown...
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Mockingbird
4 of 5 stars
"I don't like the word soon because you don't know when it's going to sneak up on you and turn into NOW. Or maybe it'll be the kind of soon that never happens." I loved this tender, moving and funny book. I loved the references to "To K...
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Freak the Mighty. Rodman Philbrick
4 of 5 stars
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The Most Beautiful Thing
5 of 5 stars
A beautiful, moving and uplifting book that covers puberty, dysfunctional relationships (both familial and sexual), friendship, first love, depression and loss. There are very few characters, so I came to feel like I knew Joe and Nel v...
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Boy Proof
2 of 5 stars
This was a quick, undemanding read. I read it in a couple of hours and it passed the time entertainingly enough, but I was left feeling like something was missing and not feeling any real connection with the characters. Perhaps it's bec...
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Eyes of a Boy, Lips of a Man
4 of 5 stars
I loved the warmth of these poems. Even when the mood was darker, there was something about the use of language that made me feel I was being invited to share an experience rather than being held at arms length to merely observe. For su...
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Snow White Blood Red, Ashes to Ashes & Cinder to Cinder, Beauty Never Dies, Ladle Rat Rotten Hut, Mary Mary Quite Contrary, Blood Apples
2 of 5 stars
This set contains some wonderful ideas and some fairly ordinary ones. I really enjoyed "Snow White Blood Red" "Ashes to Ashes & Cinder to Cinder" and "Ladle Rat Rotten Hut" but was left cold by the others. I also found myself distracted...
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Star Girl
5 of 5 stars
Five stars are not enough. I have no words.
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Ox-Tales: Fire
3 of 5 stars
A lovely little collection of short stories. The ones I enjoyed most were: "The Island" by Mark Haddon. Disturbing and darkly beautiful. "Aflame in Athens" by Victiria Hislop. A tale of youthful passion,both personal and political. ...
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A Tale for the Time Being
5 of 5 stars
Wow...just WOW! This book took my breath away. It made me feel important as a reader; As if this story did not exist unless I was reading it. As if by reading it I was contributing to it. It makes a weird kind of sense. After all, no t...
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The Day Without Yesterday
4 of 5 stars
A wonderful end to an incredibly enjoyable trilogy. I find myself hoping for a "The Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy" style trilogy in five parts.
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The Grimm Diaries Prequels Volume 7- 10: Once Beauty Twice Beast, Moon & Madly, Rumpelstein, Jawigi
2 of 5 stars
The missing words and errors of the first set of volumes are no longer apparent. This was a great relief, as these things can really spoil my enjoyment as a reader. The stories in this selection are not as much to my taste as the previ...
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Stickboy
5 of 5 stars
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The Fault in Our Stars
4 of 5 stars
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Friday Morning with Sun Saluki
4 of 5 stars
Confession: I only bought this book because I fell in love with the cover and was intrigued by the blurb on the back and the complete lack of endorsements by other writers, critics, celebrities (in fact, not a word of endorsement from an...
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The Sisters Brothers
4 of 5 stars
Perfect holiday reading. Eli and Charlie are compelling company. Despite the harsh, grim violence of their lives, Eli retains a certain innocence & gentleness that makes following the pair on their ventures both bearable and occasionally...
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Diary of a Teenage Superhero
2 of 5 stars
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Speak
4 of 5 stars
I practically inhaled this book. When you're scared and angry and hurting, both silence and the idea of numbness are so inviting. Especially when you feel like you don't belong. Melinda as outcast was something I identified with. Her s...
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I, Coriander
3 of 5 stars
This was so very nearly a 4 star read, but the spell broke for me at the lighting of the last candle. It's a beautifully engaging read right up until that point; A proper fairy-tale with a dash of historical drama. I have a strong feel...
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The Teleportation Accident
4 of 5 stars
This is a very clever book with no emotional heart, but an embarrassing wealth of humour, camp and coincidence. The main character is self-absorbed and pretentious but incredibly entertaining. I really enjoyed it, despite feeling I reall...
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The Fetch
4 of 5 stars
Read this in less than a day and loved every minute of it. I would have loved it even more if I'd read it in my teens when I was obsessed by runes, Vikings, shape-shifting, magic and death. Did I tell you it has Vikings in it? What more...
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What was Lost
5 of 5 stars
In 1984, Kate Meaney is 10 years old and living in Birmingham. In 1984 I was 11 years old and living in London. The depiction of a shabby community in the 1980s brought back vivid memories of newsagents with easily pilferable "pocket-mon...
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Dawn wind
3 of 5 stars
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Snakes & Earrings
3 of 5 stars
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The Humans
5 of 5 stars
I loved this book from the very first page to the very last. It made me laugh out loud, cringe with embarrassment, ache with loneliness, radiate with love. It made me want to go and watch my children sleeping, while I still can. It m...
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The Castle Corona
3 of 5 stars
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Hope: A Tragedy
3 of 5 stars
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The Gigantic Beard That Was Evil
5 of 5 stars
It's difficult to write a meaningful review of this book, but I absolutely loved it. Simply, this is the story of Dave, who lives a clean and ordered life in "Here" where people fear disorder and everyone & everything is well groomed; F...
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Leaving Alexandria: A Memoir of Faith and Doubt
4 of 5 stars
This book is just too damn quotable! I fell into the first half of the book as if it was an old friend. This memoir reminded me of everything that is good about religion as well as everything that made me reject it. While reading it, I...
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The Shock of the Fall
4 of 5 stars
"I'll tell you what happened because it will be a good way to introduce my brother. His name's Simon. I think you're going to like him. I really do. But in a couple of pages he'll be dead. And he was never the same after that." This is ...
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The Sigh
3 of 5 stars
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Santiago's Way
4 of 5 stars
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Anything But Typical
3 of 5 stars
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Rules
3 of 5 stars
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Quicksilver
3 of 5 stars
I want to give this 3 and a half stars as it's so much better than some of the other books I've given 3 stars to, but not quite a 4 star read. I loved the main character. She is smart, brave but not invulnerable, has the ability to spee...
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The Liars' Gospel
4 of 5 stars
"And in the midst of all that, one preacher by the name of Jesus died. And either something miraculous happened or someone lied." This is not the story of Yehoshuah (Jesus)but of the way his existence affected those around him. It is an...
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The Universe Versus Alex Woods
3 of 5 stars
How far would you go to help a friend? Alex is a socially awkward, intelligent teenage protagonist (I have a real soft spot for this type of character) who, aged 10, gets hit on the head with an iron-nickel meteorite the size of an oran...
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The Girl Who Could Silence the Wind
3 of 5 stars
This is a beautiful story of hope, sacrifice and love. The setting, heroine and elements of "magical realism" all reminded me of Isabel Allende's "Eva Luna" only with fewer individual strands in the story and aimed at a younger audience....
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The Book Of Rachael
5 of 5 stars
This book transported me to a different time and place. I was there, shyly standing behind Rachael. I was her shadow and her witness, simultaneously cheering her on and worried for her - for her inability to pretend to be what was expect...
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The Silver Linings Playbook
3 of 5 stars
There were bits about this book that didn't sit quite right with me, but there was much that I loved too: For the first few pages, I thought Pat was an adolescent. It came as a shock to realise that he was a grown man in his 30s. His o...
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You Against Me
4 of 5 stars
Quite honestly? I don't know what I think about this book, only that I was completely caught up in it. For a book dealing with the subject of sexual assault, it was surprisingly ... I can't think of the right word ... The word "calm" i...
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Harmonic Feedback
4 of 5 stars
Drea is definitely a person. That might seem like an odd thing to say, but I have felt let down in the past by books with characters who have ADHD/Aspergers/autism. They either fudge the issue by not naming it or treat the character wit...
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Hilda and the Midnight Giant
5 of 5 stars
Enchanting
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The Crane Wife
3 of 5 stars
Enjoyable but no fireworks. Mildly disappointed, as I adored A Monster Calls and the Chaos Walking trilogy
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Everything Beautiful Began After
3 of 5 stars
I love the way Simon Van Booy uses language; His words sing. But there is a large portion of this book that just didn't work for me. The prologue is a thing of beauty, and Book One is a heartbreaking joy of beautiful prose and gorgeousl...
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Hildafolk
3 of 5 stars
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The Land of Decoration
3 of 5 stars
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Maggot Moon
5 of 5 stars
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Skin Deep
4 of 5 stars
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Heaven
3 of 5 stars
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Black Heart Blue
4 of 5 stars
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Emailing Allie
2 of 5 stars
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My Fat, Mad Teenage Diary
4 of 5 stars
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The Bone Dragon
4 of 5 stars
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One Day
3 of 5 stars
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Ashes
4 of 5 stars
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The Descent Series: Vol.1
2 of 5 stars
The first book was great: fast paced, with interesting characters I cared about. I found the second confusing with too much time spent on characters & relationships that didn't interest me and the third seemed like an afterthought; a bri...
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One Moment, One Morning
1 of 5 stars
Just not-for-me.
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The 10 PM Question
3 of 5 stars
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City of Bones
2 of 5 stars
Lazy writing and irritatingly shallow characters, but enjoyable enough as an I'm-on-holiday-and-my-brain-needs-a-rest / oo-look-at-the-shiny type of read.
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City of Ashes
2 of 5 stars
Better than City of Bones
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A Circus Mirror Day
3 of 5 stars
Moving and effective, but incredibly short. My heart went out to Emily and I found myself hoping one day she can look in the mirror and see her true self.
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The Grimm Legacy
3 of 5 stars
Enjoyable enough with some lovely ideas, but it didn't hold my attention; I would read a chapter or two, then get distracted and not return to it for days.
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No You Don't: Essays from an Unstrange Mind
4 of 5 stars
Honest, enlightening & sometimes painful to read, but always beautiful. I'm so glad I found this.
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Howl's Moving Castle
4 of 5 stars
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Castle in the Air
2 of 5 stars
Disappointing after the immersive joy of Howl's Moving Castle.
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Loki's Daughters
3 of 5 stars
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Gone Girl
4 of 5 stars
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The Illustrated Gender
4 of 5 stars
This book is beautifully illustrated and a joy to look at. It gives a small but important insight into the thoughts and emotions of three transgender youths. All different, each engaging in their own way and all beautiful in their honest...
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Shadows
2 of 5 stars
Too much everything. Too much action, too many perspectives, too many characters. Disappointing & confusing after the utter brilliance of Ashes. Hope Monsters is better.
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The Letter for the King
4 of 5 stars
The hardback version of this book is a beautiful thing in it's own right. The cover and internal illustrations are of a style I find both gorgeous and comforting. This, in combination with the style of the story within, reminded me of th...
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Monday, 28 October 2013

Ways of Grieving by Ruth O'Callaghan

Ways of Grieving

Perhaps we should grieve
                         as elephants grieve

holding the bones
                 of our ancestors                                         
close

in clear air
       where a drip of light
               that falls between trees

catches the leaves' rustle
                                     before rain

the muted croo-croo of doves
                                         in shadows
where the river winds

       or watch in the snowlight
for stars
                   paled
in a winter sky
              that casts beyond
what is known

              how ice cracks in the dying
fall of night

                     or how elephants tread
marvel at whiteness
                                           Light         Bone


Monday, 5 August 2013

If you... Then I...

If I hear you mock someone for crying over something you believe is trivial. If you tell them to "get some perspective" "others have it much worse than you" "pull yourself together" and I am feeling strong enough, I will confront you. I don't care if you have experienced their situation yourself, or helped a loved one through it. That does not give you the right to belittle someone else's experience. And if you can't see that...

If I hear you use words like retard, spaz, tranny, or gay (meaning anything other than happy or someone's sexuality), I will speak up. Because words DO hurt. Words are powerful. And by using the phrase "I'm sorry if you were offended" you are belittling someone's pain while making yourself feel better, because "I apologised didn't I?" No. You didn't. You put the onus on the person you hurt.

If you honestly wish to apologise, better to say "I am sorry that I/my words/my actions hurt you." This is not saying "I was wrong" if you truly believe in what you said or did, but it is acknowledging that you caused someone else pain. We can't all agree all of the time, but we can acknowledge when we've hurt someone.

In return, I hope that if I ever hurt or offend you, you will do me the service of calling me out on it, with civility. We are all learning, every day, what it takes to develop into the person we want to be. Some of us have a head start because of race, gender, money, education...it doesn't mean we have any less of a journey to make. It does mean that we have benefited at the expense of others, whether we wanted to or not.

...Oh, and when someone apologises, take it at face value. Believe them, at least until they show by their words or actions that they didn't really mean it. Because how do you feel when YOU apologise and are not heard? It happens every time my older son and I don't see eye-to-eye: whichever one of us was not heard forgets why they were sorry and instead gets angry and defensive. And in doing so, makes things worse so that the whole miserable cycle starts again.

Disagreeing with someone does not make either them or you a bad person. Two people can hold completely opposite views and still both be good people. The world is not a simple place, people are complicated, and I kind of like it that way.

Sunday, 7 April 2013

My Nanna

My Nanna taught me my first swears.

She had a twin keyboard electric organ, with a foot-pedal not unlike those you get on sewing machines, and would play a medley of show tunes and old favourites at the slightest inkling that her "audience" might be up for a sing-along.

She taught me to sing 'A' You're Adorable and The Sheik Of Araby (with the words "without a shirt" added to each line). She taught me how to draw faces with a minimum of pencil strokes.

All our birthday cards from Nanna were sent through the post with the envelope covered in beautiful, brightly coloured, hand drawn flowers...at least they were until several went missing and, suspecting that someone at the sorting office was intercepting anything that looked like it might contain money, she began to draw inside the card instead.

She was always the life and soul of any party and loved to be the centre of attention. She always had a story that was one better than anyone else's and while this could sometimes be annoying, it was also endearing in that she never tried to excuse or hide it.

My Nanna is still alive, but I am writing this in the past tense because the sweetly wicked lady with the very naughty sense of humour and twinkly eyes I loved so much has disappeared. I found it difficult to recognise the shrunken, sullen, almost silent woman I visited this week as my Nanna. It wasn't her.

Her name was Lola, sometimes known as "Plum" and I miss her.






Thursday, 28 March 2013

Justice for Men and Boys

Dear Mike Buchanan,

I heard you speaking on Woman's Hour today about "Justice for Men and Boys (And the women who love them)", and am very sorry that you feel the way you do. I don't expect anything I say will change your mind on this, but as the mother of two boys, I am concerned by the message you are promoting.

There are many levels of bias, inequality and persecution. Some are more harmful than others, but they are all damaging (and not just to the person on the receiving end).

One of your arguments began with the statement that men pay more tax, work longer hours and in more dangerous jobs than women. Ignoring the fact that this is not always true, (although I accept that at present this is more often the case than not) in giving this as a reason for your assertions you are completely ignoring (or at least negating) any contribution to society that does not command a salary. You are also completely ignoring the number of hours many men and women spend raising children, caring for elderly or disabled relatives, maintaining a household and providing emotional support...

Yes there are inequalities. But they are not all, or even mostly, aimed at males. They are aimed at the sick, the disabled, the elderly, the uneducated, the impoverished. They are aimed at those who are either unemployed or underemployed. They are aimed at those for whom money and status are not a driving force. At those who, because of all or one of these things, are not considered to be "important"

I don't want my sons to think like you do. I want them to respect themselves and others enough to understand that it is their privilege to give up some of the advantages their race and gender have enjoyed for so long in order to help create a more equal world. I want them to know that in giving up an advantage they should never have had in the first place, they will gain far more than they have "lost"

I hope one day you see the truth of this.

Sincerely,

a woman who loves the men and boys in her life, but is not served by your party.